So let’s talk about my ADD. Many think this is the inability to pay or keep your attention. I think it is the ability to pay attention to too much of everything. If you don’t experience this- you don’t understand the difference between those two statements. It is overwhelming ALL. THE. TIME.
Have you ever seen that post about the mom, it goes something like this. She gets up makes coffee, notices the legos in the kitchen, picks them up to return to play room, on the way sees a bill that needs to be paid, goes to get checkbook… this goes on all day… at the end of the day she has a full pot of cold coffee, the bill is unpaid and she can’t find the legos. This is my brain at most times of the day.
Now, I have learned tips and tricks to process and handle that feeling. (and really have become quite well of surviving daily). Some include:
- Knowing when to take quiet ALONE time (most of the time my family cooperates). Especially when I explain, I need 5 minutes of quiet (no tv, to electronics, no peeps) before my brain implodes (because for real- that is what it feels like).
- Knowing I need marination time – I try my hardest to be sure I have an opportunity to marinate on ideas, questions. Professionally- this is quite often not possible – as staff meetings, team meetings often have discussions that we were not given a heads up on. In those cases I try to be sure people understand- that when something new is thrown out… my brains starts to look like a set of dominos going off. Every. Little. Thing. even remotely connected to that decision/idea – is shooting off like fireworks in my head. Ignore my face- it usually has nothing to do with what was just stated – but dealing with the collapse of all the dominos. If possible – Ignore the face and give me 5.
- Lists and time limits. I HAVE to create lists – or I will be all over the place trying to do everything I need to do and do all new ideas that popped into my head. I also assign myself time limits to complete a task . This keeps my attention to that task – not the tangent one.
- Prayer – in the last few years this is huge. I never thought praying for my overwhelmed brain would help. But when I feel especially overwhelmed with all in my head – I take a deep breath and pray for guidance on what to focus on and sometimes I am just praying straight up for a little peace.
What tips and tricks do you use to process all that moms need to process in a day?