BFC #17

Parenting Touchy-Twenty-Somethings

Terrible Twos. Terrifying Threes. Ferocious Fours. A piece of cake. I am currently in the parenting season for what I am calling the touchy twenty-somethings. This season means you have to respect the space, yet provide a safe space. Give privacy, yet not too much so that it appears you don’t care. Give advice without being asked BUT only when wanted. Support their wondering lost-hood, yet don’t enable dependancy. Set expectations of “chores” to help contribute to the family unit, but set up in a way not to be perceived as a personal servant.  Requires you to sit and watch the mistakes they are making- sit quietly and not swoop in to fix when they ask.

This is the parenting season of quiet-hood… it can seem lonely – though I KNOW I am not alone. The current state of comparison (facebook, pinterest, instagram, twitter) leaves an image that all the other twenty-somethings are right on track. I look back at my twenties- even when it appeared I had it together – I didn’t, I was finding myself (still trying to find myself). I was one that had it together on the outside- but was a hot mess internally. With this reminder, I am working on sitting back and letting the tall one pave his way, what ever way he decides to try.

Confession: I am not very good at watching head on collisions happen and just sitting as they struggle to clean up the mess. I am praying allot (and eating some ice cream) as he figures out how to fly from the nest, yet again.

New to Bedroom Food Confessions — Need to know what it is…. Check this out.

July Journal Challenge

Get a journal – a pretty one. an old one. It doesn’t matter. I hope you will join me in the July Journal Challenge. Take 5 minutes of your day to journal and reflect on how the creator made you – perfectly flawed.  What you need….

 

BFC #16

Confession: Yes, right off the bat- right to the point. I had a post ready to be put up today- A bit more serious in nature for my typical bedroom food confessions, but true. It has been nagging on me that it wasn’t quite ready. I struggled yesterday that I was allowing my self doubt to take hold and guide me. I unscheduled the post and scheduled it and unscheduled it. LOL. Then last night something happened – that has given me a flood of thoughts to marinate and add to that post. IT WILL be posted- but not today. 🙂 Stay tuned… surrender to God’s timing … No Self Doubt today (well at least on this topic).

New to Bedroom Food Confessions — Need to know what it is…. Check this out.

BFC #15

So our oldest left for basic training in the Air Force today (actually last night).  I. Am. A. Mess. We. Are. A. Mess.

Confession: I am a hard mom. I have high expectations – within reach- but high. I usually don’t waver. This has led to  my kids – knowing that I love them – but not accustomed to touchy, feely, emotion, filled moments. I am the calm – balanced one. So today – the “tall one” leaving – hit me like a ton of bricks. Surprised all of them and quite frankly me.  Don’t ask how I am – know I am a mess- but holding it together and surviving… but please don’t ask, strangely those are the moments I loose it. Seeing him leave on this adventure – has filled me with so much pride. However, so hard to “set him free” and trust that God is watching, protecting, and guiding him.

Isn’t it funny – if you think about it parenting is just one hypocritical moment after another. Our youngest is 8 – we struggle sometimes with his desire for independence completely – and his ability to do some things (like cook his dinner). We can’t wait till he can do this on his own just one night a week – yet in the last 72 hours I have cooked anything and everything under the sun for the “tall one.” When they are young you can’t wait to have a moment where they aren’t yelling ‘mama, mama” and when they are older you miss hearing just one “mama, mama”, “hey you” …anything LOL.

As a mother comforts her child, so will I comfort you; and you will be comforted over Jerusalem.

Isaiah 66:13

Confession 2: I may or may not have ended up sleeping with the youngest last night- just to watch that angel face sleep – while there is still room for both of us.

Not sure I have enough chocolate stock piled in my “bedroom food.”

New to Bedroom Food Confessions — Need to know what it is…. Check this out.

For the Love of Flaws … and Writing

To be honest, for the longest time I hated writing (and reading for the most part). As I walk through this life on Earth, I have come to love expressing the 1001 thoughts in my head through writing. By writing, I encourage myself to keep growing and learning. I am stimulated by learning and growing. The greatest growth I have had, is while purposefully journaling. I am not the best with this day to day. But when I look back, these moments held some of the biggest epiphanies, strongest moments of being at peace without understanding and have become an important thread in the quilt of my testimonies.

 We proclaim to you what we have seen and heard, so that you also may have fellowship with us.

1 John 1:3

So with that I have created a monthly challenge– to help hold me accountable and hopefully give direction to someone needing it. The monthly challenge will focus around quick 5 minute daily journaling. July 2019 challenge will focus on self discovering and finding the joy of the miraculous design of our flaws. I hope you will come along with me. I will post the 30 day calendar at the end of June. I also invite you to hop over to my facebook page – where I will post daily the prompt and invite you to share or learn from others sharing.  I am really excited about this new addition to my little corner on the inter-webs.