10 Years of my Perfectly Flawed Marriage

I love my perfectly flawed marriage.

Yesterday marked 10 years of survival LOL- our marriage is far from perfect. Far from facebook, instagram, pinterest worthy.

Our marriage consists of:

Days filled with hope and days filled with doubt.

Moments of silliness and moments of seriousness

Days Cleaning and Days Making a mess … I mean memories

Moments of Arguing and moments with Sweet Love Notes

Days filled with sweet conversations and Days of silence

I cant imagine spending 10 more years with it any-other way. Because no perfect marriage exists- but we are both Loved by a God who guides us and provides us with grace as needed. The truth is, I don’t want a perfect marriage- I want a good, realistic, lasting one. One where we grow as individuals and as partners. I once heard love is being able to be stupid together- I am so grateful for our stupid moments and looking forward to many more.

Too excited to wait- Fall Bible Study

Fall 2019 Bible Study for Teachers (and any school personnel)- focus will be LOVE: Unconditional & Transforming Love.

SPREAD THE WORD and invite your teacher, bus driver, school admin, teacher assistant, school cafeteria – any education friends.

Fall 2019 Bible Study for Teachers (and any school personnel)– focus will be LOVE: Unconditional & Transforming Love.

Since the school year is so busy the format is different from the current summer study.

September-November meet 2 times a month for discussions through Facebook Live. Each session will end with a reflection/goal activity take-away for the next 2 weeks.

Come as you are, you need nothing – but your bible (or bible app) and a journal.

Focusing our sessions around God’s Word and how to incorporate into the school environment:

  • Session 1 – Intro: Types of Love
  • Session 2 – Faith: The Power of Being Love Focused Instead of Task Focused
  • Session 3 – Hope: Loving in the Unloving Moments
  • Session 4 – Love: Love Never Fails, It’s Unconditional- Great what does that look like?
  • Session 5 – Self-Love: Last, But Not Least- The Unselfishness of Self-Love
  • Session 6 – My Love Plan... Life and Classroom

JOIN THE GROUP NOW (Go here: http://bit.ly/OFM-Love-Fall2019) – So you don’t forget in the hustle and bustle of the start of the school year.

OR Follow updates on my Facebook Page (https://www.facebook.com/overflawedmom/)

 

For the Love… of all the Decisions

How I handle my overwhelmed brain daily.

So let’s talk about my ADD. Many think this is the inability to pay or keep your attention. I think it is the ability to pay attention to too much of everything.  If you don’t experience this- you don’t understand the difference between those two statements. It is overwhelming ALL. THE. TIME.

Have you ever seen that post about the mom, it goes something like this. She gets up makes coffee, notices the legos in the kitchen, picks them up to return to play room, on the way sees a bill that needs to be paid, goes to get checkbook… this goes on all day… at the end of the day she has a full pot of cold coffee, the bill is unpaid and she can’t find the legos. This is my brain at most times of the day.

Now, I have learned tips and tricks to process and handle that feeling.  (and really have become quite well of surviving daily). Some include:

  • Knowing when to take quiet ALONE time (most of the time my family cooperates). Especially when I explain, I need 5 minutes of quiet (no tv, to electronics, no peeps) before my brain implodes (because for real- that is what it feels like).
  • Knowing I need marination time – I try my hardest to be sure I have an opportunity to marinate on ideas, questions. Professionally- this is quite often not possible – as staff meetings, team meetings often have discussions that we were not given a heads up on. In those cases I try to be sure people understand- that when something new is thrown out… my brains starts to look like a set of dominos going off. Every. Little. Thing. even remotely connected to that decision/idea – is shooting off like fireworks in my head. Ignore my face- it usually has nothing to do with what was just stated – but dealing with the collapse of all the dominos. If possible – Ignore the face and give me 5.
  • Lists and time limits. I HAVE to create lists – or I will be all over the place trying to do everything I need to do and do all new ideas that popped into my head. I also assign myself time limits to complete a task . This keeps my attention to that task – not the tangent one.
  • Prayer – in the last few years this is huge. I never thought praying for my overwhelmed brain would help. But when I feel especially overwhelmed with all in my head – I take a deep breath and pray for guidance on what to focus on and sometimes I am just praying straight up for a little peace.

What tips and tricks do you use to process all that moms need to process in a day?

For the Love of Flaws: And Time – Again

I have the pleasure of being home full time for 3 fulls weeks so far. I have only 4 days left with the “tall one” (he is heading off to air force basic training). I have only 4 FULL weeks left… only LOL …  We have had lots of fun so far this summer and this summer off has created lots of excitement and memories.

I am still working on the arguments I tend to have in my head, about taking time for myself and spending (making up) time with my family.  I am so grateful to have a VERY supportive family that goes above and beyond to help me create balance.

In all of this, I find myself focusing on the “little time” left and what I need to get accomplished prior to my school year starting (we start August 1).  I am definitely getting better at pushing those thoughts out of my head.

Do any of you out there spend time worrying about the time… instead of utilizing the time? If so share with me, ,won’t you. If you struggled with this and mastered how to get over with it…. spit it out and share your methods with me and my over active brain.

For the Love of Flaws … and Writing

To be honest, for the longest time I hated writing (and reading for the most part). As I walk through this life on Earth, I have come to love expressing the 1001 thoughts in my head through writing. By writing, I encourage myself to keep growing and learning. I am stimulated by learning and growing. The greatest growth I have had, is while purposefully journaling. I am not the best with this day to day. But when I look back, these moments held some of the biggest epiphanies, strongest moments of being at peace without understanding and have become an important thread in the quilt of my testimonies.

 We proclaim to you what we have seen and heard, so that you also may have fellowship with us.

1 John 1:3

So with that I have created a monthly challenge– to help hold me accountable and hopefully give direction to someone needing it. The monthly challenge will focus around quick 5 minute daily journaling. July 2019 challenge will focus on self discovering and finding the joy of the miraculous design of our flaws. I hope you will come along with me. I will post the 30 day calendar at the end of June. I also invite you to hop over to my facebook page – where I will post daily the prompt and invite you to share or learn from others sharing.  I am really excited about this new addition to my little corner on the inter-webs.