BFC #16

Confession: Yes, right off the bat- right to the point. I had a post ready to be put up today- A bit more serious in nature for my typical bedroom food confessions, but true. It has been nagging on me that it wasn’t quite ready. I struggled yesterday that I was allowing my self doubt to take hold and guide me. I unscheduled the post and scheduled it and unscheduled it. LOL. Then last night something happened – that has given me a flood of thoughts to marinate and add to that post. IT WILL be posted- but not today. 🙂 Stay tuned… surrender to God’s timing … No Self Doubt today (well at least on this topic).

New to Bedroom Food Confessions — Need to know what it is…. Check this out.

For the Love… of all the Decisions

How I handle my overwhelmed brain daily.

So let’s talk about my ADD. Many think this is the inability to pay or keep your attention. I think it is the ability to pay attention to too much of everything.  If you don’t experience this- you don’t understand the difference between those two statements. It is overwhelming ALL. THE. TIME.

Have you ever seen that post about the mom, it goes something like this. She gets up makes coffee, notices the legos in the kitchen, picks them up to return to play room, on the way sees a bill that needs to be paid, goes to get checkbook… this goes on all day… at the end of the day she has a full pot of cold coffee, the bill is unpaid and she can’t find the legos. This is my brain at most times of the day.

Now, I have learned tips and tricks to process and handle that feeling.  (and really have become quite well of surviving daily). Some include:

  • Knowing when to take quiet ALONE time (most of the time my family cooperates). Especially when I explain, I need 5 minutes of quiet (no tv, to electronics, no peeps) before my brain implodes (because for real- that is what it feels like).
  • Knowing I need marination time – I try my hardest to be sure I have an opportunity to marinate on ideas, questions. Professionally- this is quite often not possible – as staff meetings, team meetings often have discussions that we were not given a heads up on. In those cases I try to be sure people understand- that when something new is thrown out… my brains starts to look like a set of dominos going off. Every. Little. Thing. even remotely connected to that decision/idea – is shooting off like fireworks in my head. Ignore my face- it usually has nothing to do with what was just stated – but dealing with the collapse of all the dominos. If possible – Ignore the face and give me 5.
  • Lists and time limits. I HAVE to create lists – or I will be all over the place trying to do everything I need to do and do all new ideas that popped into my head. I also assign myself time limits to complete a task . This keeps my attention to that task – not the tangent one.
  • Prayer – in the last few years this is huge. I never thought praying for my overwhelmed brain would help. But when I feel especially overwhelmed with all in my head – I take a deep breath and pray for guidance on what to focus on and sometimes I am just praying straight up for a little peace.

What tips and tricks do you use to process all that moms need to process in a day?

BFC #15

So our oldest left for basic training in the Air Force today (actually last night).  I. Am. A. Mess. We. Are. A. Mess.

Confession: I am a hard mom. I have high expectations – within reach- but high. I usually don’t waver. This has led to  my kids – knowing that I love them – but not accustomed to touchy, feely, emotion, filled moments. I am the calm – balanced one. So today – the “tall one” leaving – hit me like a ton of bricks. Surprised all of them and quite frankly me.  Don’t ask how I am – know I am a mess- but holding it together and surviving… but please don’t ask, strangely those are the moments I loose it. Seeing him leave on this adventure – has filled me with so much pride. However, so hard to “set him free” and trust that God is watching, protecting, and guiding him.

Isn’t it funny – if you think about it parenting is just one hypocritical moment after another. Our youngest is 8 – we struggle sometimes with his desire for independence completely – and his ability to do some things (like cook his dinner). We can’t wait till he can do this on his own just one night a week – yet in the last 72 hours I have cooked anything and everything under the sun for the “tall one.” When they are young you can’t wait to have a moment where they aren’t yelling ‘mama, mama” and when they are older you miss hearing just one “mama, mama”, “hey you” …anything LOL.

As a mother comforts her child, so will I comfort you; and you will be comforted over Jerusalem.

Isaiah 66:13

Confession 2: I may or may not have ended up sleeping with the youngest last night- just to watch that angel face sleep – while there is still room for both of us.

Not sure I have enough chocolate stock piled in my “bedroom food.”

New to Bedroom Food Confessions — Need to know what it is…. Check this out.

For the Love of Flaws: And Time – Again

I have the pleasure of being home full time for 3 fulls weeks so far. I have only 4 days left with the “tall one” (he is heading off to air force basic training). I have only 4 FULL weeks left… only LOL …  We have had lots of fun so far this summer and this summer off has created lots of excitement and memories.

I am still working on the arguments I tend to have in my head, about taking time for myself and spending (making up) time with my family.  I am so grateful to have a VERY supportive family that goes above and beyond to help me create balance.

In all of this, I find myself focusing on the “little time” left and what I need to get accomplished prior to my school year starting (we start August 1).  I am definitely getting better at pushing those thoughts out of my head.

Do any of you out there spend time worrying about the time… instead of utilizing the time? If so share with me, ,won’t you. If you struggled with this and mastered how to get over with it…. spit it out and share your methods with me and my over active brain.

BFC #14

 

Summer break … bitter sweet. I have had lots of rest and tackled many projects. By the end of the day – I am still tired. It is day 14 (weekdays only)…

Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds

James 1: 2

Confession– I am a BIG work in progress when counting it all joy. So lets practice…

  • I am TIRED of the crumbs and the request for the 100th snack of the day- before lunch – I am JOYFUL that I can provide snacks and he is healthy enough to enjoy them.
  • I am TIRED the number of outfits worn for 30 seconds and put in the laundry – I am JOYFUL that I am able to do laundry.
  • I am TIRED of the number of toys stuffed somewhere and claimed to be put away- I am JOYFUL for the laughter that was heard while playing with them.
  • I JOYFUL for the extra cuddles, chit chats, help with small chores.

 

What daily things will you try to count as joy today?